I had an idea based on the idea of acting “as if” when you are trying to reach a goal, have more self-confidence, land the job and so on. A gratitude journal is usually what you are thankful for at that moment. Good job, healthy kids, enough money to pay the bills and you get the idea. It’s a great idea because it gets your mind off the negatives in your life and places it square on the good. Our minds are a very powerful tool. Just shifting one thought process can make a huge difference in your life and outlook.
I’ve read all sorts of self-help, motivational and biographies of successful people over the years. It started when my first husband went into sales and he was given Vincent Norman Peale’s “The Power of Positive Thinking”. I read the book but I don’t think my then husband did because we were barely getting by on what he was making. Some of these books were helpful and some were not. Some may have been more helpful if I had put their advice to work. But I was watching a documentary and it talked about writing a gratitude journal daily but using the pretense that you had already achieved your goals. I was skeptical but since I am a hoarder of journals and cool notebooks, I dug one out and started the process in mid December.
At first it seems a little insane to be writing things like “I am grateful and thankful for the fact that I am a best-selling author who has published dozens of books.” Or “I am grateful and thankful that I am in the best physical shape of my life and I am no longer limited by my weight or size.” The gratitudes have changed and evolved over the past few months though I will admit, I’m not great at doing it every day, but I write in it most days. The sky is the limit when you write these gratitudes based on the instructions. So if you want to have a lot of money, you write someting like “I am grateful and thankful for the five million dollars I have invested that I am living comfortably on now.” Or whatever strikes your fancy.
The documentary gave some new age reason for the journal that it puts this positive energy out into the universe and brings your dreams to you but I really think what it does is removes the roadblocks from your mind. If you don’t believe you can write and publish books deep down, then you will find ways to make that a self-fulfilling prophecy. If you don’t believe you can be a millionaire, you won’t ever be one. It’s not that you don’t have to work hard toward your dreams and goals because you will, I doubt your dreams magically appears one day. An agent isn’t going to show up on my doorstep saying I heard you were writing a book and I want to be your agent! I actually have to write the book, edit it over and over and submit it. I have to do the work. I have to overcome the obstacles. I have to persist.
One thing that is very important when you do this exercise is to really listen to your heart and yourself. If you find it hard to keep writing something over and over again even though you thought it was something you truly wanted, listen to that pause. At first I thought I was just annoyed with the process of writing essentially the same thing over and over but when I really looked at why I wasn’t wanting to write it, I ended up revising the goal. Which I thought was a very interesting twist and a way to really fine tune your goals and dreams so you are wasting time reaching for something you think you want, or you think you should want but deep down it isn’t your heart’s true desire.
Don’t limit yourself either. If you want something that seems completely out of reach, journal it anyway. The sky is the limit! You can find stories all the time about people who have achieved the impossible. The common thread of these stories is that they believed it to be possible and they never gave up, even in the worst situations.
So grab yourself a notebook and start living your dreams, even if it is on paper first! Believe!