Social media has been awash with posts and memes about how they can’t wait until 2020 is over as if the year itself caused this pandemic. As if by hanging up a new calendar is the magic ticket out of this pandemic. From what I can tell, this pandemic was caused by human(s) and not the year. But I get looking ahead to a brighter, better time because there is no doubt that 2020 has been an incredibly tough year including a polarizing US election.
This year has brought out the best and worst in people. I believe there has been much more good than bad overall but the millions of good acts by people are pretty much ignored as they don’t generate sensationalism or ratings. The election literally divided the country in half. I saw a truck cap with a Trump 2020 sign stuck on the back window. Underneath that sign was another sign stuck to the glass that summed it all up for me. “IN YOUR FACE”. Seriously? In your face? Are we now twelve-old boys? The truck was driven by a white-haired, white man in his mid-60’s or maybe older. I don’t think this year brought out the best in some people.
When Ohio went into shut-down in March, it was DEFCON 5 at my house because my husband was in a panic. This skyrocketed my stress and put fear in me that really didn’t need to be there. Yes, I needed to be cautious but to be so afraid of it, no. As the shut-down progressed, I slowly figured out how to live within the parameters of social distancing, mask-wearing and avoiding people. I’m a natural born introvert so I’ve been training for this my entire life. However, not being able to have my adult kids come to my home or have family dinners or even holidays like before was tough. I did, however, embrace working at home even though that was an adjustment. I do like when I must go to a doctor’s appointment, I’m no longer sitting elbow to elbow with sick people in a waiting room. I think we should take a lesson from this pandemic and schedule appointments so this doesn’t happen. Think of all the sickness that is spread just in a doctor’s waiting room.
My year was spent visiting Starbucks (drive-thru or mobile pick up) and hiking for miles and miles. I’ve done more picnics (in a park or my car) this year than my entire life. The odd side effect? My depression disappeared after suffering with it for so many years even mildly. I truly believe it was all the outdoor time. My favorite parks became overcrowded with people escaping the pandemic so I was forced to find new, lesser known parks which was a fun adventure. I wasn’t able to cycle much this year because the bike paths were just overrun, even on a Monday when everyone was to be working. But I read a lot more and bought more books to support an indie bookstore closest to me.
I miss traveling. Every day is like Groundhog’s day in some ways. There was no real break from cooking, cleaning and sleeping in the same bed. We did go away for my 50th birthday in February for a long weekend but since then, nothing of course. I’m anxious for the vaccine so I can start traveling again even if it’s a rented cabin in the middle of nowhere because the nation is not well vaccinated. Even a weekend away gives me enough of a break to reset myself. In the meantime, I plan little day trips to places I haven’t been for awhile or at all. Little adventures to keep myself sane. People still traveled, then refused to quarantine, lending to more and more cases of Covid that could have been avoided. I don’t want to think of how many people died this year due to other’s selfishness and refusal to follow the guidelines.
Selfishness and stupidity reined supreme this year. All the anti-maskers who didn’t think of who could die from their actions. Unfortunately for many of them that I know, someone in their family or themselves contracted Covid sometimes with their loved ones dying. Suddenly they went from preaching about their rights and how masks were stupid earlier in the year, to preaching about social distancing and mask wearing. Why did someone they love have to die before they understand the seriousness of a potentially deadly virus? I know that another wave of cases and deaths will occur in January because I see so many large family gatherings on social media with huge group photos and not a soul is wearing a mask. I see where parties are going to happen tonight. Then the news will be littered with reports about how hospitals are using the gift shop and chapel to hold hospital beds. It’s so crazy to me.
Pandemic aside, I’m looking forward to 2021 with the hope that I will be vaccinated and at least protected from the people who don’t care if they kill someone else by spreading the virus. That has been the scariest part of this pandemic, the people who believe their ‘rights’ are more important than another person’s life. Just running into a store, mask on and social distancing followed by bathing in sanitizer stresses me out more than final exams at college. It feels a bit like Mad Max to me as that old lady who has her mask pulled down to her chin could be spreading the virus as she refuses to give me room to pass in the aisle. For the most part, I order online or do curb-side pickup but sometimes I didn’t have a choice. Come on, vaccine.
Negatives aside, I’ve seen so many acts of kindness this year. You have to dig deeper to find them but they are there. Communities that banded together and ordered carryout after carryout to save local businesses. People wrote letters and sent gifts to people they didn’t even know who were isolated in nursing homes. The enormous sacrifices first responders, doctors and all health care workers made to care for this sick. Some paid with their lives much like in war. I can’t even imagine what it is like for them. To the people who didn’t have much but still gave to charities such as food banks and to buy toys for families struggling from job loss during this pandemic. These are all my heroes.
I heard a podcast a few weeks ago by Gregg Clunis, Tiny Leaps, Big Changes, where he suggested not setting resolutions or specific goals for 2021 due to so many unknowns the pandemic could still throw at us. Instead, he suggested going with a theme. The theme could center around work, fitness, finances, etc. Rather than setting hard fast goals, the theme allows you flexibility in working toward what you want to accomplish. Personally, I like this idea because I never do well with hard-set goals. If something runs amiss, I want to chuck the whole goal. So my theme for the year is “Makeover (Self-Care)/Finding My Joy”.
Makeover isn’t like going to the Clinique counter or having a totally new hairstyle/color and updated wardrobe. Though I could use some new clothes. It’s hard for me to shop online for clothes so I’ve been pretty much wearing what I have. It’s more about making over my self-care which I find myself to be lacking still. Finding My Joy is pretty self-explanatory. I tend to put off things I love for things I feel I need or should be doing. Sure I need to work and clean the house, but I have a lot of “shoulds” that have been put into my head that really aren’t necessary and could easily be replaced by doing something I love or that brings me joy. Essentially, it’s being more mindful about my daily life and where I am going in the future.
I tend to read a lot and sometimes I end up striving for things that I, myself, don’t really want. Example, I was reading some books, articles and listening to podcasts on financial independence. Then I got it into my mind, I need a ton of money to jet around the world except when I stopped to think about it, as glamorous as that sounds, it’s not me. I don’t necessarily want to make so much in investments that I never work a day in my life. That is also not me. What would I do all day if I didn’t work? Having the money there to not have to work would be great, but quitting my job and not working? I’d be bored. I like being productive and contributing to society. This is part of Finding My Joy. Really figuring out what I want rather than following what others say I should want.
So, my 2021 path is simple. Get the vaccine as soon as I can. Focus on my self-care makeover and finding my joy. Be kind to others, help others when I can. Not get Covid before I get fully vaccinated. Not give anyone Covid. Spend as much time, safely, with the people I love. Have some adventures. Be kind to myself.
So here’s to a new year with the hope that on December 31, 2021, that it is a better world. Cheers!